First and foremost meet at a venue that you enjoy. It's really important to feel confident and at ease with your surroundings!
Do not over-think your first date! Be open. Enjoy meeting a new friend. It may even be practice for your next date.
Be honest. If you are nervous about the date, why not say so? Chances are he or she is too, and letting yourselves admit it can be a great point of connection. We are more alike than we are different.
Don’t discuss previous dates or relationships. It’s not a job interview. You don’t have to give an exhaustive résumé about your life, or feel like you’re competing to be “chosen."
Don't be distracted. Be there, get to know this person across from you.
Don't look at your phone, text your friend, or check out that attractive (possibly single?) person at the bar? Show your date that he or she has your undivided attention.
Don't drink more than two drinks. You might say or do something you’ll regret – and, at the very least, you’ll look like you like to drink, which could be red flag for some.
Listen at least as much as you’re talking. Leave your agenda at the door. This is a chance to connect with a fellow human being. Be willing to let the conversation meander — sometimes surprise moments of connection stem from the unlikeliest of topics. Smile, relax — and be yourself. When you’re with the right person, that’s exactly who they’re looking for anyway.
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